Monday, January 31, 2011

Martial Arts Educator


10 Tips for Martial Arts Students,
to Deepen Your Practice

You didnt start your study of the martial arts to go through the motions of it all, did you? Of course you didnt, but look around you in your next class and Ill bet you spot a number of your classmates doing that very thing, going through the motions. Its human nature to get distracted, to multi-task, and wander off course.

To deepen and strengthen your practice so that you stay on the mark and make reasonable progress, I offer you these 10 time-tested:

1. As often as you can remember to do so, say to yourself I am aware that I am training (kicking, punching grappling, or whatever it is youre doing at the moment). For me, that never fails to get my head out of the clouds and back into my practice (I am aware that I am writing this!).

2. Use a training partner (or partners) to hold you accountable to more intense, more focused, and more present practice. Friends are a good thing.

3. Eat better food before and after ever class (and, of course, that translates into ALL THE TIME). If youre bodys jammed full of food-delivered chemicals, cups of corn-syrup, and crates full of unnecessary carbs or fats, youre going to find you dont function like the well-oiled machine you"re supposed to be. Contrary to the way a lot of people live their lives, what you eat IS important to your performance. In fact, what you eat IS self-defense.

4. Breath deeply, focus on breathing deeply, think about breathing deeply, and maybe, if you have a habit of forgetting, write BREATH DEEPLY on the backside of your hand. To see just how much this helps you, do it. Youll feel the benefits right away.
5. Take your practice off of the mat. Courtesy and respect for others isnt something thats practiced in the school with people youre semi-afraid of. Its for that ding-dong at the supermarket (you can tell what someone is made of by how they treat the people that mean nothing to them). Its for your Mom, who sometimes bugs you in a big way. Its for the substitute teacher (yes, even for him/her).

6. Practice at home, a minimum of 10 minutes a day on the days you dont attend classes. Little things add up, so even 10 minutes of practice can help you grow. Oh, and if you dont think 10 minutes matters, try to hold your side-kick out out for 10 minutes or try and hold your breath for 10 minutes. Yeah.

7. Read age-appropriate philosophy. Champions, whether in science, baseball, chess, jiu-jitsu, or cross-country skiing, all have belief systems that make them rise above hardship and overcome obstacles. They all learn to cope with defeat --and victory. Reading the words of someone with experience can be the next best thing to talking with them face-to-face.

8. Go crazy. Yes, act in a way that most people would consider very odd indeed. For example, when things start getting really hard, you pretend theyre getting easier. Crazy! When everyone else complains --and for good reasons too, you find the good in the situation and jump up to be the first person to turn whatever is wrong, right. Insane! When everyone else quits, you stick to it! Youre a nut!

Actually, youre a martial artist. 9. Measure your own personal performance on a scale between 1 and 10, with 1 being your worst performance --and 10 being an all out, focused, beautiful-to-behold effort. Try to operate as close to level 10 as you can during your classes (whether youre standing still or doing difficult maneuvers). And while youre at it, try to LIVE at level 10, whenever possible. Its a good thing.

10. I hate to drop this one on you last, as its a bit of a let-down after all this glorious focus on you and yours, but maybe the best way to deepen your own practice of the martial arts is to help other deepen theirs. Yes, thats right, in the end, its not about you at all. Funny how it always works out that way.

About the Author: Tom Callos bio and project portfolio may be read at http://www.tomcallos.com/


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Sunday, January 30, 2011

We may be brothers after all.... Karate Instructor and Indian Chief




In 1854, the "Great White Chief" in Washington made an offer for a large area of Indian land and promised a `reservation' for the Indian people. Chief Seattle's reply has been described as the most beautiful and profound statement on the environment ever made.


How can you buy or sell the sky, the warmth of the land? The idea is strange to us. If we do not own the freshness of the air and sparkle of the water, how can you buy them?

Every part of this earth is sacred to my people. Every shining pine needle, every sandy shore, every mist in the dark woods, every clearing and humming insect is holy in the memory and experience of my people. The sap which courses through the trees carries the memories of the red man. The white man's dead forget the country of their birth when they go to walk among the stars. Our dead never forget this beautiful earth, for it is the mother of the red man. We are part of the earth and it is part of us. The perfumed flowers are our sisters; the deer, the horse, the great eagle, these are our brothers. The rocky crests, the juices in the meadows, the body heat of the pony, and man--all belong to the same family.

So, when the Great Chief in Washington sends word that he wishes to buy land, he asks much of us. The Great Chief sends word he will reserve us a place so that we can live comfortably to ourselves. He will be our father and we will be his children. So we will consider your offer to buy our land. But it will not be easy. For this land is sacred to us. This shining water that moves in the streams and rivers is not just water but the blood of our ancestors. If we sell you land, you must remember that it is sacred, and you must teach your children that it is sacred and that each ghostly reflection in the clear water of the lakes tells of events and memories in the life of my people.

The water's murmur is the voice of my father's father.

The rivers are our brothers, they quench our thirst. The rivers carry our canoes, and feed our children. If we sell you our land, you must remember, and teach your children, that the rivers are our brothers, and yours, and you must henceforth give the rivers the kindness you would give any brother. We know that the white man does not understand our ways. One portion of land is the same to him as the next, for he is a stranger who comes in the night and takes from the land whatever he needs.

The earth is not his brother, but his enemy, and when he has conquered it, he moves on. He leaves his father's graves behind, and he does not care. He kidnaps the earth from his children, and he does not care. His father's grave, and his children's birthright, are forgotten. He treats his mother, the earth, and his brother, the sky, as things to be bought, plundered, sold like sheep or bright beads. His appetite will devour the earth and leave behind only a desert. I do not know. Our ways are different from your ways. The sight of your cities pains the eyes of the red man. But perhaps it is because the red man is a savage and does not understand. There is no quiet place in the white man's cities. No place to hear the unfurling of leaves in spring, or the rustle of an insect's wings. But perhaps it is because I am a savage and do not understand. The clatter only seems to insult the ears. And what is there to life if a man cannot hear the lonely cry of the whippoorwill or the arguments of the frogs around a pond at night? I am a red man and do not understand. The Indian prefers the soft sound of the wind darting over the face of a pond, and the smell of the wind itself, cleaned by a midday rain, or scented with the pinion pine.

The air is precious to the red man, for all things share the same breath--the beast, the tree, the man, they all share the same breath. The white man does not seem to notice the air he breathes. Like a man dying for many days, he is numb to the stench.

But if we sell you our land, you must remember that the air is precious to us, that the air shares its spirit with all the life it supports. The wind that gave our grandfather his first breath also receives his last sigh. And if we sell you our land, you must keep it apart and sacred, as a place where even the white man can go to taste the wind that is sweetened by the meadow's flowers.

So we will consider your offer to buy our land. If we decide to accept, I will make one condition: The white man must treat the beasts of this land as his brothers. I am a savage and I do not understand any other way. I've seen a thousand rotting buffaloes on the prairie, left by the white man who shot them from a passing train. I am a savage and I do not understand how the smoking iron horse can be more important than the buffalo that we kill only to stay alive. What is man without the beasts? If all the beasts were gone, man would die from a great loneliness of spirit. For whatever happens to the beasts, soon happens to man. All things are connected.

You must teach your children that the ground beneath their feet is the ashes of your grandfathers. So that they will respect the land, tell your children that the earth is rich with the lives of our kin. Teach your children what we have taught our children, that the earth is our mother. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. If men spit upon the ground, they spit upon themselves. This we know: The earth does not belong to man; man belongs to the earth. This we know. All things are connected like the blood which unites one family. All things are connected. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. Man did not weave the web of life: he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself. Even the white man, whose God walks and talks with him as friend to friend, cannot be exempt from the common destiny. We may be brothers after all. We shall see. One thing we know, which the white man may one day discover, our God is the same God. You may think now that you own Him as you wish to own our land; but you cannot. He is the God of man, and His compassion is equal for the red man and the white. This earth is precious to Him, and to harm the earth is to heap contempt on its Creator. The whites too shall pass; perhaps sooner than all other tribes. Contaminate your bed, and you will one night suffocate in your own waste. But in your perishing you will shine brightly, fired by the strength of God who brought you to this land and for some special purpose gave you dominion over this land and over the red man. That destiny is a mystery to us, for we do not understand when the buffalo are all slaughtered, the wild horses are tamed, the secret corners of the forest heavy with scent of many men, and the view of the ripe hills blotted by talking wires.


Where is the thicket? Gone.


Where is the eagle? Gone.


The end of living and the beginning of survival.

http://dreamsofperception.blogspot.com/2009/10/we-may-be-brothers-after-all.html


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Friday, January 28, 2011

How is Life Treating You?



How is Life Treating You?


Some people are not hardwired for personal improvement, while others take to it like squirrels to trees. No matter which category you fall in to, if you want to get yourself to the next level, you have to decide that you do want to, and can make your life better.

I remember a young man who started training with me in the early-90s. Let’s call him Scott. Scott was an incredibly gifted athlete who worked very hard. He had it all going for him – handsome, smart and athletic. But, at the same time, he had one of the worst attitudes that I had ever seen. He was always on brink of going over to the dark side and I was constantly trying to pull him back. When challenges would come up in his life, he would inevitably take the low road.

As hard as I tried, I was not able to steer Scott off his destructive path. He was an alcoholic by the age of 17. By his early 20’s, he found himself dealing with additional addictions to steroids and vicodin as well. At his core, he was a good guy trying his best to do the right thing. But somehow his self image was warped and he just couldn’t keep it together. Amazingly, he still calls me a couple of times of year, usually right after he gets out of rehab. Now, he’s in his 40s but he looks like he’s 60. He’s been in and out of jail, never been married and can’t hold a job. He has abused his body so much that he is diabetic and has sclerosis of the liver, a condition that will kill him if he continues to drink. The last time I saw him I asked him, “How’s life treating you?” His reply? “Like a baby treats his diapers.” And, believe it or not, Scott believes that he doesn’t have anything to do with the condition of his life. To him, everything that has happened to him is through no fault of his own.

Hopefully to a lesser degree, how many times have I pointed the finger elsewhere when challenges arise, not wanting to accept the fact that my attitude and my actions might have something to do with my situation? I’m sure that I am the only one that does this, right?

In my better moments, I have this irrational sense of optimism. I know that I hold the key to my own personal improvement. All I have to do is to accept where I am and assume full responsibility for it. Then I must decide a course of action that will best get me where I want to be. And finally, I need to take action in that direction. All the while, I need to constantly remind myself of all the ways that I have been truly blessed. Is all this simple? Yes. Is all this easy? No. Is all this worth trying? Absolutely!!!

By the way, “How is life treating you”?

By Dave Kovar - http://www.professionalmartialartscollege.com/faculty.asp



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Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Time for Accountability


Time for Accountability

The choices we make every day give us the ability to focus our mental energy on whatever we choose. We can either dwell on the past and how we are VICTIMS, or be proactive and focus on what we can create for the future. We can dwell on the gloom and doom being fed to us by the media or we can focus on what’s good. These are proactive choices. Only you can make the decision as to which way you want your life to go. You can be proactive, invest in yourself, and see possibilities of new opportunities, or you can be a victim of reality. You must understand that what you do has an accountability factor to it.

ALL energy has effects. What you focus on expands. The effects of focusing on painful events have a profound impact on what your destiny will be. Any time you dwell on the negative, you only create fear about your opportunities in the future.

Remember the old saying, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life?” Well, it’s true! Your point of power is Now. Your future is created by the thoughts and energy you use today. It is always up to you to give yourself permission to stop talking and thinking about the negative things being fed to you. Focus your mental, physical, and emotional life energy on what you are going to create in the future.

What your future will look like is totally dependent on the information and self-direction you give yourself with your self-talk. It is a practiced skill to learn to have the ability to choose the thoughts that come into your mind, rather than be ruled by the thoughts that randomly flow. You must recognize that you have the power of control to master your inner dialogue, to make your mind obey you rather than control you. What an awesome feeling to realize that your future is up to you! Your thoughts create your reality!

I suggest you experiment with new strategies for expanding your personal power and winning back absolute control of your life. You don’t have to be a victim of life. You have the power to change strategies and create a happier life. However, you must be willing to accept total responsibility for changing your self-talk and the caliber of your thoughts about yourself and your potential, regardless of the economy.

Do you want to be in control of your life, regardless of what the media says? Are You looking for inspiration in tough times? You have the power to train your mind to choose what you think and not allow negative thoughts to hold you hostage.

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Tuesday, January 25, 2011

The Handbook for life - 2011


HANDBOOK 2011



Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.

2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.

5. Make time to pray.

6. Play more games.

7. Read more books than you did in 2010.

8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

9. Sleep for 7 hours.

10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.


Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

16. Dream more while you are awake.

17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

23. Smile and laugh more.

24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...


Society:

25. Call your family often.

26. Each day give something good to others.

27. Forgive everyone for everything.

28. Spend time with/people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

30. What other people think of you is none of your business.

31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right thing!

33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

34. Time heals everything.

35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

37. The best is yet to come.

38. When you awake alive in the morning, Be Thanksful.

39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:

40. Please forward this page to everyone you care about

Only do it if it’s fun...... If it’s not fun,.... make it fun...... If you can’t make it fun...., don’t do it......


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Monday, January 24, 2011

Jack La Lanne Tribute


The ‘god-father of physical fitness,’ Jack La Lanne has died today at age 97


Meeting of the minds ... and bodies


In a fitness first, muscle master Jack La Lanne meets Body-for-Life phenom Bill Phillips for a philosophical workout. They agree: Nothing keeps you young like vigorous exercise.

On an impossibly perfect California afternoon recently, two generations of fitness gurus met for lunch at the Four Seasons Hotel in Santa Barbara to discuss health and fitness. The old guard was represented by the "Godfather of Fitness," Jack La Lanne. Back on his 70th birthday, he swam a mile and a half while shackled as he towed 70 boats in Long Beach Harbor. Now fit and feisty at 86, La Lanne still works out two hours a day when he's not giving motivational speeches or tending to his Web site. Representing the younger set was Bill Phillips, the 36-year-old Colorado native who sold his vitamin supplement company for nearly $200 million before penning his mega-successful fitness book, Body-for-Life. As the two got acquainted over eggs, fresh fruit and chicken breast sandwiches, La Lanne, a quick-witted testament to the benefits of nutrition and exercise, summed up his perspective: "You don't get old from calendar years," he said, removing the yolk from one of his four hard-boiled eggs. "You get old from inactivity."

USA WEEKEND: What would you tell a 50-year-old who is thinking of starting a regular exercise regimen?

LA LANNE: Get a physical. Then just start walking around the house. You can join a gym. There are a lot of good books and tapes, too.

PHILLIPS: Before even considering an exercise and nutrition program, I recommend that the person put on some swim trunks and have somebody take a photo of them. Then take a good look and ask yourself: Is this who I really am? If you don't see yourself as that, you have the opportunity to change it. But you need to change your mind-set.

LA LANNE: I tell people that the scales lie. You may have played basketball and weighed 175 pounds, with a 30-inch waist, back when you were in college. And you may still weigh 175 at 55. But you probably have a 35-inch waist and you've probably lost 30 or 40 pounds of muscle -- and gained 30 or 40 pounds of fat. The tape measure doesn't lie. Get that tape measure out and put it on your hips and your waist. Keep checking it. And keep exercising and cutting those calories down until that tape measure gets close to where you were in your prime.

PHILLIPS: Progress is made where progress is measured. People will set a New Year's resolution: "I'm gonna get in shape this year." But they don't set a parameter for how they're gonna measure it. Or if they do measure it, they wait until the first day of the next year. You'd never run a business that way. Document your progress.

USA WEEKEND: Should people who are 50 and over dive into the sort of workout program someone much younger would do?

PHILLIPS: Tufts is a leading university in research on strength training and muscle metabolism in people over 50, and they've shown that muscle cells increase in response to intense exercise -- whether you're 18 or 88. But the intensity is what's lacking in most seniors' workouts. And there are doctors who'll give you the advice, "Well, don't push it."

LA LANNE: That's ridiculous. What the hell do doctors know about exercise? Most of them know zero. You gotta push elderly people to failure like anybody else. Then the body responds.

USA WEEKEND: Lots of people start fitness routines. But how do you sustain it over a period of months, even years?

LA LANNE: Change your workout every 30 days. That's why I invented all those cable machines and the leg extension. You can't just do barbells and dumbbells.

PHILLIPS: I'm a believer in routine. I like to see people work out in the morning before they eat, because stored body fat is fuel for the workout instead of the carbohydrates you get in breakfast.

LA LANNE: And make it quick. One of the reasons so many people fail is they get on this treadmill for an hour or an hour and a half. That's totally unnecessary. If it's cardiovascular, you don't need more than 15 to 17 or 18 minutes if it's vigorous.

PHILLIPS: We also talk about progress -- not perfection -- as one of the things that helps change the mind-set. People feel so guilty about not exercising. Especially people over 50, who feel like they've gone a lifetime without taking care of themselves. Instead of aiming for perfection, you should try to celebrate the progress you're making.

USA WEEKEND: What's the biggest mistake people make when they decide to get into shape?

LA LANNE: Their goals are too high. You start out with an hour on the treadmill, then another hour of lifting -- hell, in two weeks you're not doing anything anymore. You gotta be reasonable.

PHILLIPS: Sometimes people -- especially people over 50 -- underestimate what they really are capable of. They believe they're not capable of doing something great. I tell people who are over 50, "I don't want your best. I want better than that. I want better than what you perceive your best is."

USA WEEKEND: How do you guys feel about nutritional supplements?

LA LANNE: I was the first one to come out with a protein supplement, so I think they're useful. I was also the first one to come out with the nutrition bars. The problem with stuff like creatine is they don't know too much about it.

PHILLIPS: I think creatine is good for people who have quite a bit of experience and are very serious about building muscle. But if you're just starting out, you don't need it to see fast results. People were building great bodies back in the '30s and '40s without ever using it.

PHILLIPS: What about these people who say you should eliminate carbohydrates from your diet?

LA LANNE: No!

PHILLIPS: I agree. The brain's preferred source of fuel is carbohydrates. And when you go on a low-carb/high-protein diet, your brain is using low-octane fuel. You'll be a little groggy, a little grumpy.

USA WEEKEND: If somebody was gonna do only one exercise ...

LA LANNE: Swimming. No doubt about it.

PHILLIPS: I'm always asking people to do something in their mind [first]. So if they're gonna do one exercise, it would be to ask themselves what they want to change about themselves in the next 12 weeks. Once they solve that, the body will follow.

LA LANNE: You can't separate the mind and body. It's impossible.

USA WEEKEND: What should people do first thing in the morning?

LA LANNE: Count your blessings.

PHILLIPS: Plan what you're gonna do that day and commit to it.

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Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Womens Self Defense - Womens Personal Safety - Ten Things


The Top Ten Things Every Woman Should Know about Personal Safety

Have you ever felt frightened or intimidated when out walking alone? Have you ever wondered what you should do if approached by an attacker? Have you ever worried about becoming yet another home invasion statistic?

The sad reality is that we live in an increasingly violent society in which the fear of crime is ever-present. Personal safety has become an issue of importance for everyone, but especially for women. Concerned about this state of affairs, Goshin Karate & Judo Academy began teaching self-defense classes and safety seminars in 1991, and have since reached thousands of women. The demand they saw for reliable safety information, coupled with the need to debunk widespread myths regarding self-defense measures, convinced Mr. Boogs to write the book The Straight "A's" of Self Defense.

The following points are ten things that every woman should know about personal safety, and are covered in the newly published book, Total Awareness: A Woman’s Safety Book:

1. Awareness: Your first line of defense. Most people think of kicks to the groin and blocking punches when they hear the term “self-defense.” However, true self-defense begins long before any actual physical contact. The first, and probably most important, component in self-defense is awareness: awareness of yourself, your surroundings, and your potential attacker’s likely strategies.

The criminal’s primary strategy is to use the advantage of surprise. Studies have shown that criminals are adept at choosing targets who appear to be unaware of what is going on around them. By being aware of your surroundings and by projecting a “force presence,” many altercations which are commonplace on the street can be avoided.

2. Use your sixth sense. “Sixth sense.” “Gut instinct.” Whatever you call it, your intuition is a powerful subconscious insight into situations and people. All of us, especially women, have this gift, but very few of us pay attention to it. Learn to trust this power and use it to your full advantage. Avoid a person or a situation which does not “feel” safe–you’re probably right.

3. Self-defense training. It is important to evaluate the goals and practical usefulness of a women’s self-defense program before signing up. Here are two tips:

a) Martial Arts Studios. Be careful here…. Not all Karate Schools are created equal. Goshin Karate & Judo Academy in Scottsdale Arizona for example specializes in Self Defense --- “GOSHIN” actually means Self Defense/Protection in Japanese. A lot of Martial Arts Schools offer FREE Self defense class to lure you into signing a long-term commitment. Many women’s self-defense programs teach watered-down martial arts techniques that are complex and unrealistic under the stress of an actual attack. At Goshin we use the KISS Theory - Keep it simply students

b) The self-defense program should include simulated assaults, with a fully padded instructor in realistic rape and attack scenarios, to allow you to practice what you’ve learned.

SEE…. YOUR WORTH DEFENDING http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ 
 Scottsdale #1 Self Defense Class for Women

4. Escape: Always your best option. What if the unthinkable happens? You are suddenly confronted by a predator who demands that you go with him–be it in a car, or into an alley, or a building. It would seem prudent to obey, but you must never leave the primary crime scene. You are far more likely to be killed or seriously injured if you go with the predator than if you run away (even if he promises not to hurt you). Run away, yell for help, throw a rock through a store or car window–do whatever you can to attract attention. And if the criminal is after your purse or other material items, throw them one way while you run the other.

5. Your right to fight. Unfortunately, no matter how diligently we practice awareness and avoidance techniques, we may find ourselves in a physical confrontation. Whether or not you have self-defense training, and no matter what your age or physical condition, it is important to understand that you CAN and SHOULD defend yourself physically. You have both the moral and legal right to do so, even if the attacker is only threatening you and hasn’t struck first. Many women worry that they will anger the attacker and get hurt worse if they defend themselves, but statistics clearly show that your odds of survival are far greater if you do fight back. Aim for the eyes first and the groin second. Remember, though, to use the element of surprise to your advantage–strike quickly, and mean business. You may only get one chance.

6. Pepper spray: Pros and cons. Pepper spray, like other self-defense aids, can be a useful tool. However, it is important to understand that there can be significant drawbacks to its use. For example, did you know that it doesn’t work on everyone? Surprisingly, 15-20% of people will not be incapacitated even by a full-face spray. Also, if you’re carrying it in your purse, you will only waste time and alert the attacker to your intentions while you fumble for it. Never depend on any self-defense tool or weapon to stop an attacker. Trust your body and your wits, which you can always depend on in the event of an attack.

7. Home invasions: A crime on the rise. The primary way to prevent a home invasion is simply to never, ever open your door unless you either are certain you know who’s on the other side or can verify that they have a legitimate reason for being there (dressing up as a repair person or even police officer is one trick criminals use). In the event that an intruder breaks in while you’re home, you should have a safe room in your house to which you can retreat. Such a room should be equipped with a strong door, deadbolt lock, phone (preferably cell phone), and a can of pepper spray or fire extinguisher.

8. Avoiding a car-jacking. Lock all doors and keep windows up when driving. Most car-jackings take place when vehicles are stopped at intersections. The criminals approach at a 45-degree angle (in the blind spot), and either pull you out of the driver’s seat or jump in the passenger’s seat.

9. A travel tip. Violent crimes against women happen in the best and worst hotels around the world. Predators may play the part of a hotel employee, push their way through an open or unlocked door, or obtain a pass key to the room. As with home safety, never open your door unless you are certain the person on the other side is legitimate, and always carry a door wedge with you when you travel. A wedge is often stronger than the door it secures.

10. Safety in cyberspace. Although the Internet is educational and entertaining, it can also be full of danger if one isn’t careful. When communicating on-line, use a nickname and always keep personal information such as home address and phone number confidential. Instruct family members to do the same. Keep current on security issues, frauds, viruses, etc. by periodically referring to “The Police Notebook” Internet Safety Page.

http://www.ou.edu/oupd/inetmenu.htm

http://powertochange.com/life/personalsafetytips/


Mr. Boggs - Sensei
Goshin Karate and Judo Academy
6245 E. Bell Road #120
Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Smoking and Kids - Tobacco Facts


Every once in a while I jump on my high horse and start preaching about the dangers of tobacco to any poor sap who feels like listening......  In truth, I don't really care if you feel like listening, you smoke, I preach, you smoke around kids, I preach louder.


Smoking is bad enough but smoking around children means you clearly don't know the facts of what tobacco is doing to those around you who do not smoke. These days there is just too much information available to deny the truth about tobacco usage. Dropping tobacco is not only beneficial to you but for those around you. It is with these simple facts in mind that I rant on...

Among the countless resources online for educating about tobacco and its effects, the best all around resource I've found is tobacco-facts.info. Tobacco Facts has a wealth of information on the risks of tobacco and smoking as well as published information on larynx and lung cancer, emphysema, and epidemiology.

If you've ever wanted the complete picture on tobacco, the effects of tobacco on you and the people around you, this is the site. Other information contained on tobacco-facts.info:

Tobacco is a drug unlike any other where its effects are not immediate. It may also take a few weeks to a month or more to become dependent on tobacco but once hooked, it's likely you may struggle with tobacco use the rest of your life. If you are or care for someone who smokes (as most of us do), you owe it to yourself to help educate them on tobacco use and do all you can to support them in their fight to quit.


Facts about tobacco and tobacco usage:

•Smoking is the leading preventable cause of death in the U.S.
•Smoking harms nearly every organ in the body.
•Women are at increased risk for infertility.
•Smoking is a major contributor to strokes.
•There are 4000 chemicals in tobacco, 100 of which are poisons and 63 which are known to cause cancer.
•Nicotine has been classified as a class 1 insecticide.
•Approx. 3000 Americans die of exposure to "environmental" tobacco smoke (second hand smoke).
•In the U.S., approx 3900 youths aged 12 - 17 try their first cigarette.
•Smokeless tobacco causes cancers of the mouth, pharynx, esophagus, and gum recession.
•Nicotine has been found to be as addictive as heroin, cocaine and alcohol.
•Every 8 seconds, someone in the world dies from tobacco related issues.

Ingredients of a cigarette:

There are 599 additives approved for use by the United States Government in your average cigarette some of which are demonstrated in the image below. For a complete list of ingredients added to cigarettes visit tobacco.org.

http://www.lifesupporters.com/family-friendly-news/health/tobacco-facts-20070526186.html

Mr. Boggs - Sensei
Goshin Karate and Judo Academy
6245 E. Bell Road #120
Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Monday, January 17, 2011

MLK Quotes: Inspirational Martin Luther King Quotes


MLK Quotes: Inspirational Martin Luther King Quotes

Today is Martin Luther King Day 2011, and while many people are going about their daily routines and asking questions like, “Are banks open on Martin Luther King Day?”, we should take a moment to stop and remember Martin Luther King Jr., and the prominent effect that he had on this country.

The Martin Luther King Jr. “I Have a Dream” speech will go down in history as one of the most remembered and loved speeches of our lifetime. Martin Luther King quotes from the speech are still repeated by many to this day.

To celebrate MLK day, here are some inspirational MLK quotes:

“No one really knows why they are alive until they know what they’d die for.”

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation were they will not be judge by the color of their skin but by the content of their character .”

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?”

“Free at last, Free at last, Thank god almighty we are free at last.”

“No person has the right to rain on your dreams.”

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would still go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”

“And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.”

“Whenever men and women straighten their backs up, they are going somewhere, because a man can’t ride your back unless it is bent”

“If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream.”

“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized, cruelly mocked, but it an never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”

http://blogs.babble.com/famecrawler/2011/01/17/mlk-quotes-inspirational-martin-luther-king-quotes/



Mr. Boggs - Sensei
Goshin Karate and Judo Academy
6245 E. Bell Road #120
Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Friday, January 14, 2011

6 Things You Should Never Say to Your Child


6 Things You Should Never Say to Your Child

Do you find yourself saying things to your child during an argument without even thinking about it? Let’s face it, it’s almost impossible to be detached or objective when your child is in your face fighting with you. And naturally, it feels like a personal attack when he’s saying rude things or calling you names. During those moments, it’s all too easy to respond with something hurtful. All of a sudden, your feelings take over—your emotions jump into the driver’s seat and your thinking moves into the back seat.

What comes out of your mouth doesn’t always get into your child’s ear the way you want it to.

Almost every parent has gotten mad and said things to their kids they wish they could take back. The trick is to figure out how to remain in control so you don’t end up saying something you’ll regret. Though this is easier said than done, trust me, it is possible—and it’s a skill you can learn, just like anything else.

We hear from people all the time after they’ve had arguments with their kids. They call us to get perspective and to find out ways they can manage their children’s behavior—and their own responses—more effectively. Here are some examples of the types of phrases I believe you should avoid saying to your child during an argument. (Later, I’ll suggest some things you can say—and do—instead.)

1. “That’s ridiculous! How can you be upset about that?”

If you have a teenager in the house, you’ve probably seen him get upset about issues that seem insignificant or petty. You wonder how he can stomp into his room and slam the door just because his girlfriend didn’t text him back immediately. While his behavior might seem ridiculous by adult standards, try to refrain from invalidating his feelings. Think about a scenario where you’ve been upset and someone has brushed off your emotions. How did that make you feel? When a child believes his thoughts or feelings have been denied, not only does he feel more isolated, he’s liable to get even more angry, frustrated and moody.

So if your child says, “You never take my side; you’re always on my brother’s side,” during an argument, and you reply, “No, that’s not true,” that’s also a form of invalidation. Instead of saying, “That’s not true,” I think you could say, “Well, I see that a little differently. Tell me more about how you see it.” By the way, you wouldn’t want to ask that question during an argument, because it will just draw out the fighting and give your child more ammunition. Do it afterward, when he has calmed down and is ready to talk.

2. “You’re just like your father.”/“Why can’t you be more like your brother?”

Even though it sounds fairly harmless, this one-two punch knocks down your child and his dad or mom. When Dad is frequently criticized in the home, for example, it’s not a compliment to your child to be compared to his father. And every time his dad is put down in the future, your child will receive two more punches.

It’s uncomfortable for kids to hear their parents saying negative things about each other, and if a child has been labeled as being “just like his dad,” he will feel anger and shame when Dad is criticized. If it’s an ex-spouse your child is being compared to, he may also feel that this is a threatening statement. In other words, if he’s just like his father and his parents are divorced, where does that leave him?

It’s also a mistake to say things like, “Why can’t you be more like your brother?” This is a pitfall for parents, especially when you have one child who acts out and one who behaves fairly reasonably. When you use this kind of comparison, it’s hurtful and also pits your children against each other—you are tapping directly into sibling rivalry and actually fanning the flames between your kids. Remember, they are unique and each has good qualities.

3. “You never do anything right.”/“You’re a loser.”

Being called a screw-up or an idiot is demeaning. These things are said to make people feel shame, or to put them in their place. Though many people think shame is a good way to punish kids, I don’t think it gives children the tools they need to learn new skills. In fact, it will often have the opposite effect because it may cause them to withdraw. In the long run, shame will make your child less capable of making the right decisions.

By the way, shame is different from guilt, which can actually be a healthy emotion. Feeling guilty is not bad because it contains feelings of remorse and accountability. You should feel regret when you do something wrong or hurtful; that’s natural. You want your child to feel some guilt when she borrows her sister’s sweater without asking and then ruins it—and you want her to be accountable for that action. But don’t use shame to try to make your child feel guilty. Shame has the effect of saying, “You’re a worthless person.” When the message is one of embarrassment and humiliation, it doesn’t teach accountability.

4. “I’m through with you!”

We’ve all been fed up with our kids and thrown up our hands, but this phrase makes children feel isolated and should be avoided. “I’m through with you,” is an angry threat often said with the desire to hurt the other person. In the long-term, continuing to say these types of remarks to your child will hurt your relationship.

Think of it this way: A child depends on his parents for survival. Parents provide protection, food, clothing and housing. So if the person who is in charge of nurturing the child makes a statement saying, “I’m cutting you off,” it’s shocking, frightening and can be very wounding.

5. “I wish I’d never had kids.”

First of all, I want to say that you’re not a monster if you’ve felt this way. We are all capable of feeling negative things at certain times. After a difficult day or a crushing argument with your child, you might think, “Sometimes I wish I never had children,” because you’re exhausted, drained and upset. It’s important to understand that this feeling is “of the moment,” and is not your overall emotion.

When you’re feeling this way, I recommend that you bite your tongue and take some time to yourself to decompress and get back on track. Using these words to make your child feel badly for something he’s done will usually only serve to make your relationship with him more volatile. If your child thinks he has nothing to lose—including your affection—he will often act out more.

6. “I hate you, too!”

When you say, “I hate you, too,” to win an argument with your child, you’ve already lost. You’re not your child’s peer and you’re not in a competition with him. By saying “I hate you,” you’ve just brought yourself down to your child’s level of maturity and left him thinking, “If my parent finds me repulsive, then I must be.”

If you do say this to your child in the heat of an argument, it’s important to go back later and say, “Listen, I realize that I said, ‘I hate you, too,’ and I want to apologize. It was wrong to say that to you. I am going to try to do a better job with my anger in the future.” Keep it about your issues; you don’t have to give your child a long explanation.

What to Do Instead of Saying Something You Might Regret

Parents wield a lot of psychological power over their kids. We tend to forget that sometimes—especially when our children are making us crazy. This happens to every parent, but we have to remember to hold back our emotions and our words and only say the things that are going to help teach the lessons we want our kids to learn.

If you’re in that moment of extreme anger and frustration with your child here are several things you can do.

Take a deep breath: Take a deep breath when you’re upset. This will make you feel less tense and the pause will give you time to stop yourself from saying those hurtful words. Remember, as James Lehman says, “You don’t have to attend every fight you’re invited to.” Look at it this way: what happens when one side lets go of the rope in tug-of-war? The line goes slack and the other side has nothing to struggle against anymore. Take a deep breath and let go of that rope. This will give you time to calm down and regroup.

Refocus: Learn how to refocus your child on the task at hand. If you’re trying to get your 12-year-old to do their homework and he gets angry and says, “I hate you,” I suggest you respond with, “We’re not talking about whether you love or hate me right now. What we’re talking about is you doing your math. Let’s focus on that.” Kids will sometimes try to manipulate parents into a power struggle in order to avoid doing something they don’t want to do. Try to focus on what needs to be done—and don’t let their words derail you or bring you down to their maturity level.

Replace your words with an action: Recognize that if you’ve gotten to the point where you’re about to blurt something out that you may regret, it’s a sign that you should leave the argument altogether. Again, you don’t have to attend that fight. What you need in this situation is an exit strategy. Simply state, “I don’t want to talk about this right now. We’ll talk later when things are calmer.” Then leave the room.

Resolve to stop: Sometimes people call the Parental Support Line and say, “I don’t know how to stop saying these things to my child.” It sounds simple, but part of how you stop is by making up your mind to quit. Tell yourself that you won’t allow yourself to say those things anymore; they are no longer an option. When you take that possibility off the table, you will then be able to do something different.

Try to think about what you want your relationship with your kids to look like ten or twenty years from now; don’t simply focus on this moment of tension when your frustration is really high.

As a parent, there are days when you open your mouth and hear your own mother’s or father’s words coming out—good and bad. I believe that parents usually don’t mean it when they say hurtful things to their kids. But remember, what you say—and what you mean—isn’t always what your child hears. As James Lehman says, “It’s important to realize that what comes out of your mouth doesn’t always get into your child’s ear the way you want it to.”

In any close relationship, people are going to bump into each other now and again. Unfortunately, people say hurtful things—we’ve all done it. But honestly, if a parent can go back to their child and say, “I’m sorry that I said this to you, I realize that it was wrong,” that’s usually enough. Most children are very forgiving; they love their parents and want to get along with them. They may still remember what you said, but they’ll also remember the apology. That’s good role modeling for any relationship, because you’re saying, “I made a mistake. I’m sorry. I’m going to try not to do this anymore. And I love you.”

http://www.empoweringparents.com/6-things-you-should-never-say-to-your-child.php?utm_source=email01112011NX#



Mr. Boggs - Sensei
Goshin Karate and Judo Academy
6245 E. Bell Road #120
Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Scottsdale Karate School supports - No Name-Calling Week

No Name-Calling Week - January 24-28, 2011

No Name-Calling Week is an annual week of educational activities aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds and providing schools with the tools and inspiration to launch an on-going dialogue about ways to eliminate bullying in their communities.

No Name-Calling Week was inspired by a young adult novel entitled "The Misfits" by popular author, James Howe. The book tells the story of four best friends trying to survive the seventh grade in the face of all too frequent taunts based on their weight, height, intelligence, and sexual orientation/gender expression. Motivated by the inequities they see around them, the "Gang of Five" (as they are known) creates a new political party during student council elections and run on a platform aimed at wiping out name-calling of all kinds. Though they lose the election, they win the support of the school's principal for their cause and their idea for a "No Name-Calling Day" at school.


Motivated by this simple, yet powerful, idea, the No Name-Calling Week Coalition, created by GLSEN and Simon & Schuster Children's Publishing, and consisting of over 40 national partner organizations, organized an actual No Name-Calling Week in schools across the nation during the week of March 1-5, 2004. This year, No Name-Calling Week will take place the week of January 24-28, 2011. The project seeks to focus national attention on the problem of name-calling in schools, and to provide students and educators with the tools and inspiration to launch an on-going dialogue about ways to eliminate name-calling in their communities.



http://www.nonamecallingweek.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/about/index.html
 
Mr. Boggs - Sensei
Goshin Karate and Judo Academy
6245 E. Bell Road #120
Scottsdale, AZ. 85254
480-951-2236

http://www.GoshinKarate.com/ - Free Bully Prevention Seminar - January 29th from 2 - 3:30pm
http://www.GoshinCares.com/

http://www.GoshinGirls.com/
http://www.GoshinGear.com/ ---- Martial Arts Supplies

http://www.YourWorthDefending.com/ ---- Woman's Self Defense - February 19th
http://GoshinKarate.blogspot.com/

Providing Instruction/Lessons in Martial Arts, Self Defense, Judo, Jujitsu, MMA and Karate, for Kids, Teens and Adults in the Cave Creek, Phoenix, Scottsdale and the entire north valley of Arizona since 1991.


SAME LOCATION FOR 20 YEARS

Scottsdale Arizona, Phoenix Arizona, Taekwondo, Karate kids, Ju-jitsu / Jiu-jitsu, Grappling, Kickboxing, Hapkido, Judo, Kung Fu, Bruce Lee's Jeet Kune Do, Escrima, Kali Arnis, Wushu, Aikido, Judo, Kempo / Kenpo, Yoga, TaiChi, Self Defense Training, Practical Street Defense, Women's Self Defense, Stranger Danger, Bully Busting, Bully Prevention, Workplace violence, School violence, Personal Training, Executive Self Defense, Boxing, Weapons, Extreme Martial Arts (XMA), Black Belt Training

Together We Thrive - Tucson Tragedy - Obama's Speech

President Barack Obama speaks at the event 'Together We Thrive: Tucson and America' honoring the January 8 shooting victims at McKale Memorial Center on the University of Arizona campus in Tucson, Ariz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztbJmXQDIGA&f
To the families of those we’ve lost; to all who called them friends; to the students of this university, the public servants gathered tonight, and the people of Tucson and Arizona: I have come here tonight as an American who, like all Americans, kneels to pray with you today, and will stand by you tomorrow.


There is nothing I can say that will fill the sudden hole torn in your hearts. But know this: the hopes of a nation are here tonight. We mourn with you for the fallen. We join you in your grief. And we add our faith to yours that Representative Gabrielle Giffords and the other living victims of this tragedy pull through.

As Scripture tells us:

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells. God is within her, she will not fall;God will help her at break of day.

On Saturday morning, Gabby, her staff, and many of her constituents gathered outside a supermarket to exercise their right to peaceful assembly and free speech. They were fulfilling a central tenet of the democracy envisioned by our founders – representatives of the people answering to their constituents, so as to carry their concerns to our nation’s capital. Gabby called it “Congress on Your Corner” – just an updated version of government of and by and for the people.

That is the quintessentially American scene that was shattered by a gunman’s bullets. And the six people who lost their lives on Saturday – they too represented what is best in America.

Judge John Roll served our legal system for nearly 40 years. A graduate of this university and its law school, Judge Roll was recommended for the federal bench by John McCain twenty years ago, appointed by President George H.W. Bush, and rose to become Arizona’s chief federal judge. His colleagues described him as the hardest-working judge within the Ninth Circuit. He was on his way back from attending Mass, as he did every day, when he decided to stop by and say hi to his Representative. John is survived by his loving wife, Maureen, his three sons, and his five grandchildren.

George and Dorothy Morris – “Dot” to her friends – were high school sweethearts who got married and had two daughters. They did everything together, traveling the open road in their RV, enjoying what their friends called a 50-year honeymoon. Saturday morning, they went by the Safeway to hear what their Congresswoman had to say. When gunfire rang out, George, a former Marine, instinctively tried to shield his wife. Both were shot. Dot passed away.

A New Jersey native, Phyllis Schneck retired to Tucson to beat the snow. But in the summer, she would return East, where her world revolved around her 3 children, 7 grandchildren, and 2 year-old great-granddaughter. A gifted quilter, she’d often work under her favorite tree, or sometimes sew aprons with the logos of the Jets and the Giants to give out at the church where she volunteered. A Republican, she took a liking to Gabby, and wanted to get to know her better.

Dorwan and Mavy Stoddard grew up in Tucson together – about seventy years ago. They moved apart and started their own respective families, but after both were widowed they found their way back here, to, as one of Mavy’s daughters put it, “be boyfriend and girlfriend again.” When they weren’t out on the road in their motor home, you could find them just up the road, helping folks in need at the Mountain Avenue Church of Christ. A retired construction worker, Dorwan spent his spare time fixing up the church along with their dog, Tux. His final act of selflessness was to dive on top of his wife, sacrificing his life for hers.

Everything Gabe Zimmerman did, he did with passion – but his true passion was people. As Gabby’s outreach director, he made the cares of thousands of her constituents his own, seeing to it that seniors got the Medicare benefits they had earned, that veterans got the medals and care they deserved, that government was working for ordinary folks. He died doing what he loved – talking with people and seeing how he could help. Gabe is survived by his parents, Ross and Emily, his brother, Ben, and his fiancĂ©e, Kelly, who he planned to marry next year.

And then there is nine year-old Christina Taylor Green. Christina was an A student, a dancer, a gymnast, and a swimmer. She often proclaimed that she wanted to be the first woman to play in the major leagues, and as the only girl on her Little League team, no one put it past her. She showed an appreciation for life uncommon for a girl her age, and would remind her mother, “We are so blessed. We have the best life.” And she’d pay those blessings back by participating in a charity that helped children who were less fortunate.

Our hearts are broken by their sudden passing. Our hearts are broken – and yet, our hearts also have reason for fullness.

Our hearts are full of hope and thanks for the 13 Americans who survived the shooting, including the congresswoman many of them went to see on Saturday. I have just come from the University Medical Center, just a mile from here, where our friend Gabby courageously fights to recover even as we speak. And I can tell you this – she knows we’re here and she knows we love her and she knows that we will be rooting for her throughout what will be a difficult journey.

And our hearts are full of gratitude for those who saved others. We are grateful for Daniel Hernandez, a volunteer in Gabby’s office who ran through the chaos to minister to his boss, tending to her wounds to keep her alive. We are grateful for the men who tackled the gunman as he stopped to reload. We are grateful for a petite 61 year-old, Patricia Maisch, who wrestled away the killer’s ammunition, undoubtedly saving some lives. And we are grateful for the doctors and nurses and emergency medics who worked wonders to heal those who’d been hurt.

These men and women remind us that heroism is found not only on the fields of battle. They remind us that heroism does not require special training or physical strength. Heroism is here, all around us, in the hearts of so many of our fellow citizens, just waiting to be summoned – as it was on Saturday morning.

Their actions, their selflessness, also pose a challenge to each of us. It raises the question of what, beyond the prayers and expressions of concern, is required of us going forward. How can we honor the fallen? How can we be true to their memory?

You see, when a tragedy like this strikes, it is part of our nature to demand explanations – to try to impose some order on the chaos, and make sense out of that which seems senseless. Already we’ve seen a national conversation commence, not only about the motivations behind these killings, but about everything from the merits of gun safety laws to the adequacy of our mental health systems. Much of this process, of debating what might be done to prevent such tragedies in the future, is an essential ingredient in our exercise of self-government.

But at a time when our discourse has become so sharply polarized – at a time when we are far too eager to lay the blame for all that ails the world at the feet of those who think differently than we do – it’s important for us to pause for a moment and make sure that we are talking with each other in a way that heals, not a way that wounds.

Scripture tells us that there is evil in the world, and that terrible things happen for reasons that defy human understanding. In the words of Job, “when I looked for light, then came darkness.” Bad things happen, and we must guard against simple explanations in the aftermath.

For the truth is that none of us can know exactly what triggered this vicious attack. None of us can know with any certainty what might have stopped those shots from being fired, or what thoughts lurked in the inner recesses of a violent man’s mind.

So yes, we must examine all the facts behind this tragedy. We cannot and will not be passive in the face of such violence. We should be willing to challenge old assumptions in order to lessen the prospects of violence in the future.

But what we can’t do is use this tragedy as one more occasion to turn on one another. As we discuss these issues, let each of us do so with a good dose of humility. Rather than pointing fingers or assigning blame, let us use this occasion to expand our moral imaginations, to listen to each other more carefully, to sharpen our instincts for empathy, and remind ourselves of all the ways our hopes and dreams are bound together.

After all, that’s what most of us do when we lose someone in our family – especially if the loss is unexpected. We’re shaken from our routines, and forced to look inward. We reflect on the past. Did we spend enough time with an aging parent, we wonder. Did we express our gratitude for all the sacrifices they made for us? Did we tell a spouse just how desperately we loved them, not just once in awhile but every single day?

So sudden loss causes us to look backward – but it also forces us to look forward, to reflect on the present and the future, on the manner in which we live our lives and nurture our relationships with those who are still with us. We may ask ourselves if we’ve shown enough kindness and generosity and compassion to the people in our lives. Perhaps we question whether we are doing right by our children, or our community, and whether our priorities are in order. We recognize our own mortality, and are reminded that in the fleeting time we have on this earth, what matters is not wealth, or status, or power, or fame – but rather, how well we have loved, and what small part we have played in bettering the lives of others.

That process of reflection, of making sure we align our values with our actions – that, I believe, is what a tragedy like this requires. For those who were harmed, those who were killed – they are part of our family, an American family 300 million strong. We may not have known them personally, but we surely see ourselves in them. In George and Dot, in Dorwan and Mavy, we sense the abiding love we have for our own husbands, our own wives, our own life partners. Phyllis – she’s our mom or grandma; Gabe our brother or son. In Judge Roll, we recognize not only a man who prized his family and doing his job well, but also a man who embodied America’s fidelity to the law. In Gabby, we see a reflection of our public spiritedness, that desire to participate in that sometimes frustrating, sometimes contentious, but always necessary and never-ending process to form a more perfect union.

And in Christina…in Christina we see all of our children. So curious, so trusting, so energetic and full of magic.

So deserving of our love.

And so deserving of our good example. If this tragedy prompts reflection and debate, as it should, let’s make sure it’s worthy of those we have lost. Let’s make sure it’s not on the usual plane of politics and point scoring and pettiness that drifts away with the next news cycle.

The loss of these wonderful people should make every one of us strive to be better in our private lives – to be better friends and neighbors, co-workers and parents. And if, as has been discussed in recent days, their deaths help usher in more civility in our public discourse, let’s remember that it is not because a simple lack of civility caused this tragedy, but rather because only a more civil and honest public discourse can help us face up to our challenges as a nation, in a way that would make them proud. It should be because we want to live up to the example of public servants like John Roll and Gabby Giffords, who knew first and foremost that we are all Americans, and that we can question each other’s ideas without questioning each other’s love of country, and that our task, working together, is to constantly widen the circle of our concern so that we bequeath the American dream to future generations.

I believe we can be better. Those who died here, those who saved lives here – they help me believe. We may not be able to stop all evil in the world, but I know that how we treat one another is entirely up to us. I believe that for all our imperfections, we are full of decency and goodness, and that the forces that divide us are not as strong as those that unite us.

That’s what I believe, in part because that’s what a child like Christina Taylor Green believed. Imagine: here was a young girl who was just becoming aware of our democracy; just beginning to understand the obligations of citizenship; just starting to glimpse the fact that someday she too might play a part in shaping her nation’s future. She had been elected to her student council; she saw public service as something exciting, something hopeful. She was off to meet her congresswoman, someone she was sure was good and important and might be a role model. She saw all this through the eyes of a child, undimmed by the cynicism or vitriol that we adults all too often just take for granted.

I want us to live up to her expectations. I want our democracy to be as good as she imagined it. All of us – we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children’s expectations.

Christina was given to us on September 11th, 2001, one of 50 babies born that day to be pictured in a book called “Faces of Hope.” On either side of her photo in that book were simple wishes for a child’s life. “I hope you help those in need,” read one. “I hope you know all of the words to the National Anthem and sing it with your hand over your heart. I hope you jump in rain puddles.”

If there are rain puddles in heaven, Christina is jumping in them today. And here on Earth, we place our hands over our hearts, and commit ourselves as Americans to forging a country that is forever worthy of her gentle, happy spirit.

May God bless and keep those we’ve lost in restful and eternal peace. May He love and watch over the survivors. And may He bless the United States of America.

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